Woman in silhouette looking towards a beautiful sunrise, about to be illuminated I wanted to write a bit about shame today: I think it's the most corrosive and insidious of all emotions. It's actually quite unusual for someone to recognise that what they are feeling is shame; often it doesn’t look anything like what we imagine shame to look like. It can look like struggling to hold somebody’s gaze when eye contact suddenly feels too direct... seeing a message from somebody yo

I’m so excited to welcome you to my beautiful new therapy room, where I'll now be on Tuesdays - Thursdays every week. You can now book in person sessions in my new room at Exeter Wellbeing Hub on Queen Street in Exeter; a fantastic central location with plenty of parking nearby and Exeter Central station just an easy 2-3 minute walk away. I’ve got a couple of spaces on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays 8.30am - 2pm, plus ad hoc afternoons and evening spaces on request. If yo

I’ve been thinking a lot about the term 'self abandonment” recently and wondering if it could be a bit misleading. Trying to make sense of my childhood experiences and what was referred to as a "weak sense of self" was something I’ve often talked about in my personal therapy over the years. For a while, it helped me make sense of why I found it so hard to name my needs when my therapist asked me, or constantly agonised over making any decision, big or small. The more I’ve re

Now available: a guided meditation to help you to compassionately connect with your inner child

I've realised I've been a bit quiet on social media recently, so wanted to reassure you that I'm still here! I've had lots of enquiries and new clients booked in this month, so I thought it could be helpful to answer some of their questions about me and how I work. I'm going to go into more detail about the specific approaches, interventions, tools and resources I like to use, so this post is going to be more of an overview of how I work as a self esteem therapist. So what is

"Who am I?” I know - it’s a big question, possibly one of *the* big questions to answer, especially in therapy. If it comes up for a...

You might be surprised to hear a psychotherapist say this, but here goes: sometimes, talking isn’t always helpful! You may have had...