Woman in silhouette looking towards a beautiful sunrise, about to be illuminated I wanted to write a bit about shame today: I think it's the most corrosive and insidious of all emotions. It's actually quite unusual for someone to recognise that what they are feeling is shame; often it doesn’t look anything like what we imagine shame to look like. It can look like struggling to hold somebody’s gaze when eye contact suddenly feels too direct... seeing a message from somebody yo

I’ve been thinking a lot about the term 'self abandonment” recently and wondering if it could be a bit misleading. Trying to make sense of my childhood experiences and what was referred to as a "weak sense of self" was something I’ve often talked about in my personal therapy over the years. For a while, it helped me make sense of why I found it so hard to name my needs when my therapist asked me, or constantly agonised over making any decision, big or small. The more I’ve re

"Who am I?” I know - it’s a big question, possibly one of *the* big questions to answer, especially in therapy. If it comes up for a...